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10 Negative Body Language Gestures That Cause Others To Dislike You

Most people are totally unaware that negative body language even exists and completely underestimate the amount of influence it has over how you are perceived by others. To avoid being disliked by others for things you may not even be aware of, stay clear of these negative body language gestures at all costs.

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Most people are totally unaware that negative body language even exists and completely underestimate the amount of influence it has over how you are perceived by others.

Most of our communication is actually non-verbal. This means that what you don’t say, speaks a lot about who you are and what you are thinking. Gestures that you use, whether conscious or subconsciously form your body language. As a result, through these body gestures, people can deduct positive attributes as well as negative tone.

Therefore, if you are looking to make a good impression when in conversation with others, negative body language gestures can really work against you and have people thinking you are something you are not.

This article compiles some negative body language gestures you may want to avoid.

1. Looking down and not making eye-contact

When in the presence of people you don’t know, lack of eye-contact is seen as a negative gesture. Some people may view this as rude; while others will take it as arrogance. It actually shows that you’re not interested in what others have to say. Therefore, make sure to always maintain good eye contact and avoid looking down.

2. A fake smile

10 Negative Body Language Gestures To Avoid

There is nothing more off-putting than a fake smile. This negative body language gesture is easy to spot. A genuine smile is one that will light up the whole face. A fake smile centers on the mouth and lips alone. If you feel like you have to force a smile, there is no need to pretend; keep your cool, and this will make you more credible.

3. Checking your watch and focusing on your fingernails

There is nothing that says you are bored more than checking the time and inspecting your fingernails. When you are having a conversation, be respectful and maintain focus; even if you are really bored. This is a sure way to create a good impression.



4. Narrowing of the eyes

Narrowing your eyes will be taken to mean that you do not like the ideas of another person. Also, it is an expression that has been seen to express anger and distrust. However, some people narrow their eyes while conversing as a reflex to deep thought. You do not want to send the wrong message and in this respect, avoid narrowing of the eyes.

5. Sitting or standing too close

Have you seen people who come too close to you and bother your personal space? This habit is more common than you think. You should keep your distance while talking to someone; unless you are intimate friends or lovers. Some people think that being too close will enhance the conversation; while in actual fact it is a rude thing to do.

6. Touching your face

People who touch their face during conversations definitely have a negative tone to them. Touching the nose and mouth could indicate that the person is not telling the truth. Some people show nervousness when they touch their face, and the key is to resist the urge. Your hands should not be close to your face when you are talking to people.

7. Crossing your arms

10 Negative Body Language Gestures To Avoid

This is a debatable negative body language gesture. Some people say that it is a sign of intelligence and depth. Others say it is an egoistic thing to do. Crossing your arms could mean that you are not open to the ideas of others. It shows defensiveness and resistance. It is wise to avoid it if you want to leave a lasting impression with others.

8. Blinking too fast

It goes without saying that when you are anxious or nervous, you might increase the rate of blinking. However, you do not have to announce it to the whole world. You can actually learn how to master your anxiety so that you can make a good impression at all times. Remember, you want to enhance your image and in this respect, learning how to take deep breaths and remain composed will go a long way.

9. Not sitting on your chair squarely

Some people have the habit of sitting on the edge of their chair. This is a sure sign of discomfort. Given a chance, the person would rather not be at that venue; at least this is the message that is passed across. When you find a seat, sit squarely and comfortably. Lean back and make yourself firm. This further enhances your confidence.

10. Tapping your finger or foot

Impatience and boredom are the messages that are sent out when you tap your finger and foot. It can also be an indicator of stress. This habit is highly conspicuous, and you want to avoid the negativity that it’s associated with. Practice resting your arms and legs and be aware of your body and feelings at all times.



Conclusion

Remember, a picture paints a thousand words and your body language is not far behind. Whether positive or negative, your body language can and will express thoughts and feelings way before your mouth ever will. Staying mindful of your body language in important situations is a very powerful attribute to have and is definitely worth practicing.

Sophia Nguyen
Communication Wizard & Writer at OverSavvy
There is something undeniably spellbinding about Sophia's way with words and how she always knows just what to say. Refreshingly, she also knows the value of silence—whether she’s listening to a friend, treating herself to one of her weekend rock-climbing adventures, or meditating over a quiet cup of tea.
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How To Become A Great Conversationalist – 17 Savvy Tips

The first thing you will learn when trying to become a great conversationalist is that it is more of an art than a skill. Many find face-to-face communication difficult, but in business, social and personal situation, this ‘Art’ is proving to be more and more of a valuable attribute to have. Follow these 17 savvy tips to get started.

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Being a great conversationalist is becoming a lost art, but face-to-face communication is still as important as ever in business, social and personal situations.

Having the ability to engage people in conversation effortlessly, allows others to see you as being approachable and personable. Also, it’s important to note that all highly successful people are great conversationalists.

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Here are 17 savvy tips to effortlessly become a great conversationalist.

1. Be ready with a witty introduction

When you meet someone new, the best way to strike a pleasant conversation is arming yourself with a catchy introduction. So, find ways to integrate clever tidbits related to your life, work or even hobbies that will disarm and intrigue the other party.

2. Be truly interested in the other party

Before talking with somebody, ask yourself questions like; Who are they? What is on their minds? What do they really like doing? Or what really motivates them? A true interest in the other person is critical in kicking off a conversation and keeping it going.



3. Concentrate on positive topics

Leave previous complaints behind, and settle for discussions, which focus on the future. For instance, you can relate a funny thing that occurred to you that morning or perhaps a film you intend to see in the evening. It is alright to talk about negative topics, but only when the other party won’t be offended, or it’s absolutely necessary.

4. Converse, don’t argue

Conversations are platforms in which opinions can be aired, but definitely not a battlefield. Be willing to chat, discuss issues and bring your opinions to light, but do so in an amicable manner. Let things be open ended if a common ground cannot be established.

5. Be respectful to the other party

Respect their perspective on things and never infringe on their privacy until a common ground has been achieved. Also, be mindful of their personal preferences and never criticize.

6. Place them in the best light possible

If you really want to become a great conversationalist, Always ensure you search for means of making the other party look good. Offer credit where it’s due. Acknowledge talent when you see it and put in a compliment when appropriate.

7. Embrace differences

We are all different from each other. Still, there are numerous commonalities between us. When it comes to differences, always try to embrace them as they make each of us distinctive.

Make it a point to agree to disagree whenever there is a conflict of ideas. As you converse, look for commonalities between you. Then build on them to spin off other conversations.

8. Always be yourself

Your most precious asset in any conversation is your actual personality. So, embrace it and never conceal it. Let it shine out. It’s verbose and trite to keep repeating others’ words in your conversations. Be willing to share your own ideas and opinions.



9. Conversations are a two-way traffic

The ideal conversation is a 2-way process between both parties. You ought to be sensitive enough to ask questions if you’ve been talking all through. Additionally, ensure you share your own insights if the other party has been rambling on for awhile.

10. Ask mindful questions

There are great questions which can steer the directions conversations take. To have a pleasant chat, ask meaningful questions.

11. Don’t judge the other party

People very often say weird things without thinking. So, don’t be judgmental.

12. Be an attentive listener

Nothing can destroy a conversation much faster than an absent-minded listener. Inattentiveness relays that what the other party says isn’t important or it even bores you.

13. Maintain eye contact

It’s important to keep good eye contact with the individual you are conversing with and use physical and vocal cues to encourage them to keep talking. Remember to keep in mind that balance is important here as too much or too little eye contact could verge on negative body language

14. Keep abreast with current affairs

Take the time and effort to read articles, newspapers, magazines and other publications on a regular basis. Doing this will conveniently furnish you with a treasure trove of interesting topics to bring up in your conversations.

15. Be ready for awkward questions

You will appear ignorant and off your guard if somebody asks you a question and you cannot find the right response to it.



16. Find ways to keep the other party well entertained

Keep the individual you are chatting with entertained using your sense of humor. Shower your conversations with good jokes and witty anecdotes.

17. Try to lend a sympathetic ear

In some circumstances, someone might wish to air out their pent-up frustrations to you. So, pay keen attention and only speak when it’s proper to do so. At all costs, never laugh off the predicament he or she is in by relating a similar one from your own experience.

Conclusion

Learning to become a great conversationalist is like learning a new language, but the difference here is that this is a language where the words to not take center stage. Like learning anything new, practice does indeed make perfect so get out there and get chatting.

Soon you will realize that you naturally find yourself in a place where you can effortlessly engage others in meaningful conversations and they will enjoy talking to you.

 

Sophia Nguyen
Communication Wizard & Writer at OverSavvy
There is something undeniably spellbinding about Sophia's way with words and how she always knows just what to say. Refreshingly, she also knows the value of silence—whether she’s listening to a friend, treating herself to one of her weekend rock-climbing adventures, or meditating over a quiet cup of tea.
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