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8 Second Date Ideas That Virtually Guarantee A Third

The first date can be very intimidating, but the second date can prove to be harder. Will your fire and enthusiasm fizzle down with the second date? Here are 8 Second Date Ideas That Virtually Guarantee A Third

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Following what must have been the perfect first date, the second date definitely comes with added pressure. Do you try to top the first date? Do you truly have the charm you portrayed in the first date? Will the spark still be there or will it fizzle out? These are all questions you might have when thinking about second date ideas.

Firstly, do not over think anything. The second date does not have to be formal; you can relax. Playing it cool and easy is the way to go.

If you do not know where to start in terms of ideas, the following information will give you some good options. With these second date ideas, you can be sure that the third date will be almost guaranteed.

1. Order some food and stay in

8 Second Date Ideas That Virtually Guarantee A Third

If you do not wish to ‘impress’ your date with your cooking skills or lack thereof, it is fine just to order some nice guilt food and enjoy at home. Some smooth wine will be in order as well. Better yet, you can visit your favorite eatery nearby and take away some bites.

This will give you plenty of time to interact and get conformable with each other. Spoil yourself and order the tastiest food as you desire. Just make sure that your place is attractive and clean.

2. Go horse riding together

Horse riding is fascinating and eye-opening. Taking your second date to such a setting will not just provide for great fun but will allow you to let go.

You have to admit, you can never forget a good or bad horse riding experience. Learn together, and at the end of the day, you will have created a bond worth friendship.

3. Have a spa experience

For your second date, book a couples massage and head to a spa. You can be sure that this is the most relaxing way to have a second date. When you are finished, get your nails done and enjoy some drinks while enjoying the experience. Don’t shy away from thinking out of the box; your date will appreciate it.



When you are finished, get your nails done and enjoy some drinks while enjoying the experience. Don’t shy away from thinking out of the box; your date will appreciate it.

4. You can’t go wrong with hiking

Hiking is not just healthy for you and your date, but it is great fun as well. Enjoy the journey and make sure to pack some energizing food for a picnic when you make it to the top. This removes any anxiety as you sweat your way through the hike.

5. Head to an amusement park

8 Second Date Ideas

Enjoying a roller-coaster ride at a theme park on your second date can be exhilarating. Enjoy the water park and experience bumper cars together. These causal activities will definitely have your adrenaline pumping and give you both a great opportunity to let your guards down and bond with each other.

6. Go to a cooking class together

If you truly know that you need to work on your cooking skills, what better way to do it than to head to a cooking class for your second date. You will definitely embarrass yourself, but it will be all in the name of good fun. As a couple, you can put together a meal, and this goes to show what you can accomplish.

If you do not wish to go to a class, buy some ingredients and head straight to the kitchen for your second date. At the end of the day, you may not have the best meal; but your date will surely be impressed.

7. Go swimming

It may sound a bit over the top but swimming together is a great way to bond. Look for a swimming pool that is open to the public at night and have a romantic swimming experience.

With this backdrop, you can be sure to make many memories. Do not forget to end the experience with a sumptuous meal and some wine. Your date needs to see that you have put some effort into deciding on the second date.



8. Enjoy some jazz

Jazz is definitely the most romantic music. For this reason, look for a nice jazz club and enjoy your second date. Setting the tone is vital for success. With background melody and nice food and drinks, you cannot possibly go wrong with your date.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, a great second date won’t always save a relationship that doesn’t really have great potential. But, a bad second date can easily put an end to a relationship that could become something really special.

Some would even go as far as to say that the second date is more important than the first. Either way, the second date ideas listed above will virtually guarantee you a third date with the right person.

Lauren Claessens
Love Doctor & Writer at OverSavvy
Whether you need guidance on a killer first date or how to tell whether you’ve met The One, this doc has the cure. Lauren's expertise comes from years of experience combined with a fresh take on love in all its sweet and spicy forms. And when she’s not on call? You’ll find her drumming with her band at gigs around town.
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Top 10 Ways To Spot A Dating Site Scam

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You probably already know the drill. An attractive stranger professes their undying love for you, maybe even your hand in marraige and then immediately requests financial assistance, stating only you can help them out. If you care to check, your email spam folder is probably crammed to the gills with such kinds of pleas.

In recent times, these same fraudsters have started to infiltrate dating sites too. The phrase ‘find true love’ has now become the bane of these online social platforms.

Con artists have come to prefer these sites, and routinely utilize sophisticated techniques to dupe the naïve and ultimately milk them dry.

The level of sophistication in terms of pick up lines and images used tend to vary from one criminal to the next. Still, in the long run, the primary objective is always the same.

There are now millions and millions of new scam online dating sites profiles created on a monthly basis. This is attributable to the immense popularity of these online social platforms. So, it is vital to play it safe, and ensure you don’t get hoodwinked by sleazy professions of true love or passion.

Here are the top 10 ways to spot a dating site scam.
Top 10 Ways To Spot A Dating Site Scam



1. Fake photos that indicate a dating site scam

When someone approaches you on a dating site, first take the time to do a Google Images check on their profile avatars. If it is of a model, a stock photo or someone different, then it is a possible warning sign of a dating site scam. Simply ‘right click’ on the profile photo and select “Search Google for image.” [1] (only on chrome browser)

2. Geographical mismatches

This is another conspicuous red flag you should always be on the lookout for. If someone says they are in New York, but their IP address says otherwise, steer clear of them. (Use methods [A] & [B]  to lookup the IP address of your suspect scammer)

3. Disparity in your ages

These fraudsters tend to target individuals who are older than them. In case of males, they routinely favor middle aged ladies between 50 to 80 years old. In their scheme of thinking, this given age set is much richer and susceptible to professions of true love.

4. Check other photos they send you

When you receive photos sent to your profile, try to detect anomalies that don’t add up. This includes backgrounds or landscapes, which don’t tally up with the profile your ‘wooer’ has built.

5. Discrepancies in conversations

If someone asserts they are away, but their profile is still active, always be suspicious. High chances are, they are in the process of conning someone else.

6. Grammatical errors in their conversations

When somebody cannot even write their own name correctly, then be on your guard. This should also be the case if their grammar deteriorates dramatically over time.

7. Stories that contradict each other

In their enthusiasm to commit fraud, these criminals very often contradict themselves. So, if he or she tells you something seemingly innocuous, but later on make the mistake to contradict themselves in a clear way, please beware.



8. Rapid escalation of intimacy or urgency for help

Top 10 Ways To Spot A Dating Site ScamIf you hook up with someone on a dating site or app, who then, in short order, expresses their love to you when you have not even met yet physically, always think twice. These fraudsters always prey on needy and insecure individuals who will swallow up their lies and deceit without thinking twice about it.

Therefore, if the deal happens to be too good, always be cautious. At the same time, after getting to know each other, your prospect abruptly states they are in financial distress and request you to help, watch out!

9. Continuous attempts to move your conversation to other online platforms

A clear dating site scam ‘Red Flag’ to look out for would be if your ‘wooer’ keeps trying to make you chat with them in another online platform other than the one you first ‘met’, make it a point to stubbornly insist you remain there.

Most of these criminals will endeavor to accomplish their shady missions as quickly as they possibly can before their accounts are flagged as fraudulent. This caution drives them to utilize as many forms of dating sites or apps to guarantee their ultimate success.

10. Ask questions about the place they are currently living

When someone suspicious approaches you on an online dating site, always grill them with questions, which will require first-hand local knowledge. This can include locations of popular restaurants, pubs, nightclubs or other major landmarks in the region they say they live in.

Also, make it a point to quiz them on current affairs of that area and country to be doubly sure that they are for real.

 



References
[1] Search by image: Google
[A] 4 ways to trace an IP address: WikiHow
[B] How to find the IP address of a fake profile: Hacker9

Lauren Claessens
Love Doctor & Writer at OverSavvy
Whether you need guidance on a killer first date or how to tell whether you’ve met The One, this doc has the cure. Lauren's expertise comes from years of experience combined with a fresh take on love in all its sweet and spicy forms. And when she’s not on call? You’ll find her drumming with her band at gigs around town.
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9 Double Date Ideas That Are Completely Fun And Awkward Free

Are you struggling to think of some really good double date ideas, and are starting to feel anxious already? Yes, double dates can be fun; But can be completely awkward if you do not choose the right couple or the right activities for your date.

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Are you struggling to think of some really good double date ideas, and are starting to feel anxious already?

Yes, double dates can be fun as you get to hang out with another couple as you explore different activities. It’s an awesome way to spend time with friends or family members while still leveraging on your romance with your partner.

But, having said this, double dates can be completely awkward if you do not choose the right couple or the right activities for your date. If you truly want to enjoy the experience, take time and plan for an exciting date; or you will be disappointed.

Here are a few double date ideas to get you started.

9 Double Date Ideas That are Completely Fun and Awkward Free

1. You can never go wrong with a barbecue night

A barbecue is a perfect way to enjoy a double date. Being in a slightly more social setting allows you to be a bit more relaxed.

Conversations can flow freely between the guys, the girls, and the entire group while you all enjoy food, drink, and music. This is definitely the right mood to have for any double date. And you know when there are four of you, it might as well be a mini-party!

2. Watch a game together

The finals of an important game on TV can be exciting for casual fans and die hard fans alike. For a double date, this is an ideal theme to relax and enjoy the night.

As you cheer on your favorite players and teams, you will be impressed at how closely you bond during the double date. Do not forget to have plenty of food and drinks.



3. Hit the road for a trip

Road trips are amazing, to say the least. The chances are that you have a lot to explore in your town or outside your town. Arrange for a road trip for your double date and see your country from different angles.

Parks, monuments and other attractions will not just be entertaining; but will make for long lasting memories.

4. Consider going out shopping

You do not have to spend a lot of money while shopping during your double date. You can simply explore various shops and see what is trending. If you like something, you can choose to get it.

However, the objective of the shopping tour will be to bond, and this can make for an adventurous day at the shops. End your shopping experience with a casual lunch or even dinner.

5. Hit the club for some dancing

If you all love a certain type of music, it is an excellent idea to hit the club and dance away. This will remove all the anxiety and make for a fun time. Make sure you are into the same music because if one person or one couple is feeling out of place, it will not work.

6. Do some yoga together

Yoga is definitely a great way to unwind and relax. Why not have your double date in this manner. You can learn new moves and get to experience deep relaxation in this regard.

If you love pilates or jogging, you can choose to go that direction as well. You know what they say about couples who work out together; they make fit and firm friendships.



7. Go wine tasting

9 Double Date Ideas That are Completely Fun and Awkward Free

Wine and cheese tasting can never go out of style. For your double date, this will surely break the ice as you discover smooth tastes. If you are not into wine or cheese, consider coffee or tea tasting.

Some people will head to a cake shop to soothe their sweet tooth. You can enjoy anything together, and all you need to do is be creative and mindful about all the parties involved.

8.Enjoy a play together

Enjoying creative art like a play or a show can be the source of great entertainment. For your double date, this is a unique way to spend quality time while experiencing something new.

Take it easy and do not choose a play or show that is too serious. Comedy always works very well. If you are all into a certain theme, go with that because it will make for a better date.

9. Play games at home

There are many games you can play at home as couples. You can ask each other questions about your partners and see which couple wins. This is light-hearted fun and should not be taken seriously.

This way, you will get to know deep things about your partner for the betterment of your relationship. There are no rules so feel free to break the ‘rules’. The rule of thumb is to have fun all the way.

Conclusion

Double dates are meant to be fun and a great opportunity to learn how you and your partner gel together in a less intimate and more social environment. After your initial first and second date, a double could be the next step to move your relationship along perfectly.



Just remember to be natural and avoid doing or saying things just to keep up or compete with the other couple.

It’s also important to note that if you really want your double date to go well, choosing a couple that are relatively at the same stage in their relationship as you are, is always going to be the best option.

A couple that has been together for a while may be comfortable with public shows of affection. This can make the double date very awkward for you if your relationship is new and you’re are not quite at that stage yet.

Lauren Claessens
Love Doctor & Writer at OverSavvy
Whether you need guidance on a killer first date or how to tell whether you’ve met The One, this doc has the cure. Lauren's expertise comes from years of experience combined with a fresh take on love in all its sweet and spicy forms. And when she’s not on call? You’ll find her drumming with her band at gigs around town.
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How To Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl

Do you ever wish that you could walk through a crowded room confidently to introduce yourself to a girl you fancy? Are you scared of starting a conversation, only to run out of interesting things to talk about and attract her undivided attention? Do you wish you knew how to keep a conversation going with a girl?

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Do you ever wish that you could walk through a crowded room confidently to introduce yourself to a girl you fancy? Are you scared of starting a conversation, only to run out of interesting things to talk about? Do you wish you knew how to keep a conversation going with a girl??

If you answered yes to any or all of the above questions, then we hope the following article will help you break through what may be a huge relationship barrier in your life.

Below are some tips on how to keep the conversation going with a girl without fear and anxiety.

Kick off the chat in with a clever icebreaker.

Firstly, you need to grab her attention and invite her to talk to you. Success at this stage will boost your confidence immensely.

To start, pay attention to surroundings or current scenario and angle your approach around that. For example, don’t start talking about fast cars if you are approaching her while she is shopping for shoes.

Let’s look at a few ways you can accomplish this:

  • If you are about to try and talk to a girl you have never met, a recommendation could be the perfect icebreaker. Especially if done in a funny, none intrusive way. For example, if you are in a bar and you notice she can’t decide what to order, seize the moment and recommend your favorite drink.
  • Common ground is always a great place to start if you work together or are in the same classes together. Make a comment about your latest assignments, workplace news or even hot topics. You can even ask her opinion on something you know you are both working on or dealing with.
  • This may seem the wrong way around to you, but ask her to do you a favor. Yes, YOU ask HER to do YOU a favor. Here’s the logic, or even science behind it. It’s a psychological phenomenon called the Ben Franklin effect [1] which discovered that people naturally like people who they have done favors for. It can be something as small as “can you pass me a straw” or “could you just watch my stuff for a moment; I’ll be right back.” This will make her feel more trustworthy and maybe a little curious about you.
  • A well timed, genuine compliment is always a good option. If she did something amazing in class, achieved something at work or simply looked stunning that day, tell her. Steer clear of her feminine features, but compliment her style, her hair or even her smile.

Ask her interesting questions

How to Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl

At this point, you’ll want to ask questions that accomplish a few things. Firstly, you’ll want to make it clear that you have a genuine interest in her while simultaneously deciding if she is worth investing your time into.[2] Also, the perfect questions will make her laugh, think and like you at the same time.



Here are a few tips to achieve this:

  • If you want the conversation to flow, without lag and awkward silences, avoid yes or no questions. Questions that require longer answers allow for a longer, naturally flowing conversation.
  • Be proactive and lead the conversation. Give your perspective on the answers she gives you so you can find out about her while still sharing things about yourself that will interest her.
  • Don’t ask questions just for the sake of asking questions. This kind of insincerity is so transparent, and anyone can see through it. If you are truly fascinated by her, find out what she is passionate about, what she likes
    and why? Remember, the one thing that most people like to talk about is themselves.[3] It’s the quickest and easiest way to build a connection through conversation.

 

Find a way to make yourself look good without being self-centered

Of course, you want to find out everything you can about her, but remember; she will also need to know enough about you to be even the slightest bit curious or interested in anything past this initial conversation.

Follow these tips to cast yourself in the best light:

  • Talking about your passions is a great way to let learn about you. The perfect scenario would be if you both happen to share some of the same passions, but if not, remember to give her equal time to talk and interact.
  • Avoid giving strong opinions on subjects or issues that you actually know nothing about. This is the fastest way to look unintelligent.
  • Share a glimpse into your future goals and plans, but just enough to create enough intrigue to want to know more. This is not an opportunity to make up lies in order to try and impress, but there is nothing wrong with showing that you are ambitious and on the path to achieving good things

 

Sometimes, silence is golden.

Awkward silences can leave a conversation dead in the water, but, pauses and deliberations can hold a conversation together.

A natural, flowing conversation will have pauses so don’t expect to have something to say during every second of the conversation. Using pauses can also help you control the pace of the conversation. This will give you opportunities to keep the chat interesting.[4]



Let’s look at some examples:

  • So you feel like you are about to run out of things to say. Your natural instinct at this point might be to stare at your feet nervously, killing the conversation instantly. But in that same time, you could just look into her eyes and smile confidently while you think of what to say next. She will be intrigued to find out why you are smiling and may wait for you to tell her. Either way, you have just used the silence to create a touch of curiosity while buying enough time to keep the conversation going.
  • Unconsciously, people tend to mimic each others rate of speech and therefore, naturally synchronize with each other.[5] This means that if you slow down how fast you talk, eventually, so will she. This way the conversation will last longer and pauses become a little less obvious. Just remember to be confident.
  • Pauses also give you an opportunity to see if she is enjoying the conversation. If you pause and she takes the initiative to lead and ask you questions, then you know your efforts so far have been worthwhile.

Make sure you keep the conversation light

If there is one thing that will undo all your efforts instantly, it’s saying something that she finds offensive or makes her think that you are actually not a very nice person.

Follow these tips to keep the conversation on safe ground:

  • Making her laugh is probably the best indicator that the conversation is going well. Do not jeopardize your progress with risky jokes or opinions that may come across as offensive and mean.
  • If you have funny stories about things that have happened to you, now is the perfect time to tell them. We all like jokes, but a funny story will help her connect with your humorous side.
  • Staying up to date with pop culture, celebrity news, music and film will always give you light topics to talk about. She may even be impressed by how much you know

 

Body language will say what the mouth will not.

How to Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl

You’ve probably heard the saying “A picture paints a thousand words” right? Well, body language is not that far behind. She will be able to tell a lot from your body language, but you will also get very good indicators from her if you know what to look for.

These are some body language indicators to look for and also avoid doing yourself:

  • To ensure she feels you are totally focused on her, try to maintain good eye contact and occasionally give her a warm smile.
  • Avoid negative gestures that indicate that you are bored or unimpressed with her. Such gestures would include crossing your arms, staring at your watch, groaning and tapping your feet to name just a few
  • If you want to know if she is into you, look for indicators such as eye contact, leaning toward you when talking, gentle contact on the hand or arm and even stepping closer to you if you take a step away.
  • On the other hand, if she is constantly looking away, playing with her jewelry and generally looking like she is waiting for an opportunity to escape, then it’s probably time to thank her for her time and move on.

End the conversations on a positive note

If you feel the conversation has gone really well, and there is a connection between the two of you, ask for her number. Then let her know you enjoyed talking to her. The next morning, feel free to send her a casual text just letting her know it was great to talk to her and wish her a good day.



Follow these last steps to learn the best way to continue your communication with her:

  • To avoid looking needy or too forward, it’s best to wait at least a day before you call her. Especially if she was a stranger when you approached her.
  • Keep things short and sweet when you call her unless she initiates a longer conversation. A simple invite to a movie, and then dinner or drinks, where you can impress her more in person will probably be fine
  • Remember to keep it cool and low-key until you are sure she is really into you. You don’t want to be too forward if the feeling is not mutual and risk making her feel uncomfortable around you.

 

Conclusion

Learning how to keep a conversation going with a girl will finally remove the barriers that are making it harder for you to meet girls and start relationships. Fear and anxiety can make a conversation with a girl very awkward. But, by following the steps outlined here, you’ll find you have a new level of confidence and understanding, therefore, making talking to girls so much easier.

 

References
[1] Wikimedia: The Ben Franklin Effect
[2] ABC.com: ‘Simple Pickup’s’ 6 Tips on How to Talk to Girls
[3] ScientificAmerican: The Neuroscience of Everybody’s Favorite Topic
[4] GirlChase.com: Using the Pregnant Pause in Conversations with Women
[5] PsychologyToday.com: Imitating Oprah

Lauren Claessens
Love Doctor & Writer at OverSavvy
Whether you need guidance on a killer first date or how to tell whether you’ve met The One, this doc has the cure. Lauren's expertise comes from years of experience combined with a fresh take on love in all its sweet and spicy forms. And when she’s not on call? You’ll find her drumming with her band at gigs around town.
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